THE "DASH" GUY

In Southeast Asia the method for taming a wild elephant has been developed over thousands of years. When a wild young elephant is caught, it is tied up along side several experienced working elephants.

 

During the initial days, the young elephant is dragged to the training area against its will. This often cruel and painful process is intended to “break the will” of the young elephant and gain its total submission.  This process normally takes about a week.

 

Afterwards, the young elephant is tied to a wooden frame or between two trees, where it can’t move, but it tries over and over again to break free from the rope. The trainer uses the tactics of fear, pain, hunger, and thirst until the elephant stops resisting and totally submits. As the elephant starts to accept its fate, the trainer will allow it to take a bath and eat.     

 

I hear you asking, “Why are you talking to me about training elephants?”

 

I share this story, because many of us have had our “wills” broken and “potential” taken from us by others who did not recognize our full potential or they did it for their personal gain.

 

How often are the dreams of children destroyed and their spirits broken, because they were raised in a family that did not nurture and encourage them, but constantly reminded them of what they couldn’t do or would never become in life.

 

These are the “stakes” in the ground or more specifically in the minds of many of us, which has held us “captive” our entire life.

 

Again, I ask, “Who or What is holding you back?”

 

Was it an abusive father or step-father, who did not reach his full potential, because of the abuse he received from his father, has continued the cycle by physically and mentally abusing his own children; thus robbing his children of their potential?

 

Or was it a teacher, who was overly critical toward you and other students, because he had a professor in college who treated him poorly?

 

Or was it an insecure manager, who treated you any other staff persons badly, because he felt threaten by the potential of his staff?

 

Or was it a spouse or girlfriend who did not support your dreams, because she didn’t see herself being successful and had no dreams of her own?     

 

Or was it an education system, which has “trained” you like so many others to be employees, instead of employers?

 

Or maybe I did not mention your “stake” in this list, but you know what it is?

 

I am often amazed at the number of people who tell me that they do not like what they are doing in their career. Or they do not like where they are in life, but yet, these same individuals are not willing to make any changes in their life.

 

Albert Einstein says, “Insanity: is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results”.

 

You will never be able to “break” free from the “stakes” in your life, unless you are “sick and tired” of your current situation and stop settling for the status quo.

 

The change must start in your mind first; then your actions will follow!! Right thoughts result in right actions!! Wrong thoughts result in wrong actions.

                                                                               

You must reject the “stakes” of your past, which has held you captive too long and start believing that you can achieve the success you desire.

 

Stop making excuses for your lack of success, accept responsibility for your actions, and start developing a plan to move your life to where you want it to be!!

 

In the future, I plan to share some thoughts on how to develop an abundance mindset, instead of a mindset of scarcity. Sometimes our scarcity mindset causes us to settle for the status quo, instead of stretching ourselves to reach our full potential.  Also, it can cause us to feel like we don’t deserve to be successful in life!!

 

I would like to recommend a couple books to assist you in this transformation of your mind: “Dare to Dream” by John Maxwell and “Why We Want You To Be Rich” by Donald Trump and Robert Kiyosaki. (For your convenience I have provided links to purchase these books now in the Recommended Section on this site).

 

 

Please provide me your comments on this topic. If you have additional topics you would like to see us discuss, please send me an email or post a comment.

 

Also, refer this site to other men you know, so we all can journey together!! 

 

For the woman in your life, my wife (Sylvia) has a personal development site focused specifically on the needs and concerns of women. The site is called, www.thedashlady.com. 

 

Also, we have a joint site focused on the needs and concerns of couples (i.e. married, engaged, and seriously dating). This site is focused on helping couples to grow together through personal development. The site is called, www.marriagerhythm.com.  

 

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Again, thanks for visiting this site.   

 

Randy

The “DASH” Guy

randyclark@thedashguy.com

www.thedashguy.com

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