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This article is a follow up to a couple articles I wrote, “A Dad’s Blueprint For Academic Success Part 1” and “A Dad’s Blueprint For Academic Success Part 2”. 

 

In these articles I talk about the importance of having an academic blueprint. If you have not read these articles, please read them before continuing with this one, it will make more sense to you.

 

All of my kids graduated from Duncanville High School and their counseling staff did an excellent job in putting together a student handbook, which contained all the course requirements that the student needed upon graduation depending on the level of college they planned to attend (i.e. regular, competitive and very competitive schools).   This handbook made developing an academic blueprint for them much easier, because we had a picture of what the end results should be upon graduation.

 

Since I was in college when my oldest daughter was in middle school and high school, she did not receive as much benefit of an academic blueprint as the last two children, because I was still trying to figure out and executed my own academic blueprint. However; she still graduated with honors and ahead of schedule with her associate degree from Mountain View College and bachelor degree from The University of Texas at Arlington. She is a school teacher.

 

When my youngest daughter was in the 7^th grade, we developed an academic blueprint for her, based on the fact that she wanted to be a doctor. Her blueprint included all the honors and Advance Placement (AP) classes she needed to attend a very competitive college or university.

 

Also, she was able to participate in the Health Occupation Program, which allowed students to get experience in a medical facility while in high school. She initially thought she wanted to be a pediatrician, but after working with the sick children, she realized that was not the right area of medicine for her.

 

Another benefit of having an academic blueprint, it helps you to determine the path that is right for you. Also, it allows you to make adjustments with minimum lost of time and money.

 

With her academic blueprint, my daughter was able to graduate high school with honors, in the top 10% of her class, and with more than 20 college credit hours earned while in high school.  She received her bachelor degree from Texas A & M in College Station and her medical degree from The University of Texas Medical Branch in Galveston. She is a Psychiatrist.

 

When my son was in the 7^th grade, we developed an academic blueprint for him. Since he had not totally decided what he wanted to do for his career, we decided to just make sure he met the requirements to attend a very competitive college or university upon finishing high school.    

 

When he was in the 11^th grade, he decided to take a Media Technology class, which provided him experience in broadcasting and mass communication. He soon found out that he was very good in this field. This program allowed him to develop his skills as a movie producer and broadcast journalist. He won several awards in his junior year. In his senior year, he won first place in the regional, state and national competitions in the video production category. He had found his niche!!

 

Another benefit of an academic blueprint, it allows you to explore various options to find your niche.

 

He graduated with honors, number 3 in a class of over 800 students (should have been the salutatorian, but a teacher changed his grade because he did not like him, another article for another time). He had over 30 college credit hours when he completed high school. 

 

He later attended The University of Texas at Austin and majored in Radio, TV and Film, graduating with a 4.0 GPA. Since he graduated with his first degree in three years, due to his advance status from high school, he pursued and received a second degree in Business Marketing the next year. He is a 3^rd year law student at Harvard Law School.

 

Because of the college credit hours received in high school, my youngest daughter and son never had to take more than 16 credit hours during a semester.

 

Another benefit of an academic blueprint, it allows you to receive an advance status in college while in high school and it reduces the course workload while in college.  Also, it can reduce the total cost of their college education, a huge benefit to parents!!

 

Dads, you may be saying, “That is all good, but my child is not “college” material.”

 

I fully understand that every child does not want to attend college; some children will choose the military or a trade or technical school. It does not matter which path they choose, if they have an academic blueprint it will reduce their chances of failure and increase the chances of them reaching the destination they desire.

 

Dads, if you want your child to succeed academically, you must help them develop an academic blueprint!!

 

Please provide me your comments on this topic. If you have additional topics you would like to see us discuss, please send me an email or post a comment.

 

Also, refer this site to other men you know, so we all can journey together!! 

 

For the woman in your life, my wife (Sylvia) has a personal development site focused specifically on the needs and concerns of women. The site is called, www.thedashlady.com. 

 

Also, we have a joint site focused on the needs and concerns of couples (i.e. married, engaged, and seriously dating). This site is focused on helping couples to grow together through personal development. The site is called, www.marriagerhythm.com.  

 

Please visit these sites and leave us a comment about the current posts. 

    

Again, thanks for visiting this site.   

 

Randy

The “DASH” Guy

randyclark@thedashguy.com

www.thedashguy.com

Uncategorized academic, achievement, dreams, education, parenting, personal development, self-improvement, success

  

This article is a follow up to another article I wrote, “A Dad’s Blueprint For Academic Success Part 1”.  In this article I talk about the importance of having an academic blueprint.

 

 

Because I lacked an overall vision for my life, I thought having an academic blueprint was not important. But, I later found out how wrong I was!!!

 

After a few years of working as a computer programmer, I was doing pretty well financially, as a matter of fact; I was earning more money than some of my friends who had college degrees.

 

However; I decided that management provided me the best path to the destination I desired, so I returned to school to pursue a degree in Business Administration, with an emphasis in Management when I was 28 years old.

 

I looked at several local colleges and universities that had a management program and made a final selection. Based on my assessment, it was going to take me 7 years to obtain this degree, since I was on Plan B, meaning I would have to work full-time and go to school part-time at night.

 

When I met with the advisor at the local community college, I told her the school I had chosen and the program. She suggested that I get an associate degree on the way to earning my bachelor degree. I told her that was fine as long as all the credit hours for the associate degree would transfer to my bachelor degree, because I did not have any time to waste. She helped me develop my first academic blueprint.

 

After 3 years of attending classes in the fall, spring and summer I completed the requirements for the associate degree. I needed 61 credit hours for my associate degree, I had 63 credit hours when I finished.  

 

After 4 more years of attending classes in the fall, spring and summer I completed the requirements for the bachelor degree. I needed 129 credit hours for my bachelor degree, I had 131 credit hours when I finished. 

 

One of the benefits of having an academic blueprint, it shows you the shortest path to your destination!!

 

Dads, we have a great amount of influence in our children lives. It is through our actions they will establish some of their values. For example: If we only show up for sporting events, they will come to the conclusion that sports are more important than academics.

 

Unfortunately, too many Dads have made this mistake and sent their kids down a path that sacrifice their life and academic potential to the “sports gods” of our society (i.e. football, basketball, etc.).

 

When my son was about 8 years old, he came to me to discuss if he could play football. At first I was opposed to the idea, because he was an outstanding student and I didn’t want football to distract him from his academic pursuits. We agreed that if his grades started to drop, I was going to execute my own version of the “No Pass, No Play” rule regarding him. 

 

As a Dad, I wanted to make sure my children did not repeat my mistakes. I wanted them to understand the importance of education in helping them to accomplish the overall vision for their life.

 

I used my life as a college student as a “teachable” moment for my children. I wanted them to understand that through commitment you can have academic success, but I wanted them to not do it on a Plan B path like me, because the cost is much higher.   

 

I helped each of them to develop a blueprint for their academic success!!

 

You are probably asking by now, “What did you do to develop and implement the academic blueprints for your children?”

 

We started implementing their academic blueprints as early as Pre-K or earlier if you consider the training they received at home. When we purchased toys for them, we made sure they were teaching tools (i.e. word board games, speak & spells, etc.). We purchased lots of books for them to read, as well as enrolled them in reading programs at the local library during the summer months.

 

Also, we used BIG doses of encouragement when they solved math problems or spelled words correctly. We taught them that they were as smart as anyone else at their school. These actions boosted their confidence and self-esteem.

 

We used a reward system to help motivate and keep them focused. When they received their grade reports, they would receive additional money on their allowance for their grades. The amount they received was based on the letter grade and their grade level, because we knew the course work was harder in the higher grade levels.

 

During the 7^th grade year, we implement phase 2 of the academic blueprint. In the midst of the body changes, increase interest in the opposite sex, peer pressure, etc. that your child is going through; the blueprint will provide them a sense of direction and stability. During this period, we mapped out the main courses they would take each year through their senior year.

 

Another benefit of having an academic blueprint, it provides direction and a road map to your destination. 

 

In “A Dad’s Blueprint For Academic Success Part 3”, I will share more details on the benefits of having an academic blueprint.  

 

 

Please provide me your comments on this topic. If you have additional topics you would like to see us discuss, please send me an email or post a comment.

 

Also, refer this site to other men you know, so we all can journey together!! 

 

For the woman in your life, my wife (Sylvia) has a personal development site focused specifically on the needs and concerns of women. The site is called, www.thedashlady.com. 

 

Also, we have a joint site focused on the needs and concerns of couples (i.e. married, engaged, and seriously dating). This site is focused on helping couples to grow together through personal development. The site is called, www.marriagerhythm.com.  

 

Please visit these sites and leave us a comment about the current posts. 

    

Again, thanks for visiting this site.   

 

Randy

The “DASH” Guy

randyclark@thedashguy.com

www.thedashguy.com

Uncategorized academic, achievement, dreams, education, parenting, personal development, self-improvement, success

 

This article is a follow up to a previous article I wrote, “Poverty: A State Of Mind Or An Economic Status?” 

 

In the article, I indicated that there some major differences in how poor people and rich people think and live their lives. See “Poverty: A State Of Mind Or An Economic Status?” for more details on these differences.

 

You are probably asking, “How can I develop a mindset of abundance?”

 

I think the key can be found in looking again at some differences in how poor people and rich people think and live their lives.

 

Their view of life is different. Poor people live their lives in a “survival” mode; therefore; their decisions making is short-term in nature. In other words, they are consumed and pre-occupied with the basics of life (i.e. how to feed their families, how to pay their bills etc.). They do not or can not focus on their long-term future.

 

Also, since poor people have limited resources, when unexpected situations occur, they do not have any resources available to deal with these situations, adding more situations to their crisis management lifestyle.

 

Rich people live their lives in a “proactive or preventive” mode. They asset the various negative situations they face to see how to avoid, eliminate or mitigate these problems or risks in the future.  

 

For example: Since rich people live a lifestyle below their means, they establish “emergency” funds and savings to “buffer” them from some of the unexpected problems that will occur in life. Therefore; their lives are not consumed with the “crisis management” of poor people.

 

Their preparation and planning for life is different. Poor people spend their lives thinking about how to get more money and what they will buy when they get some money. Therefore; when they get additional funds, they spend it unwisely, because they have not invested time and energy in gaining knowledge and understanding of financial matters.

 

Rich people spend their lives gaining knowledge and understanding of financial matters, so when the money comes, they will know how to handle it.

 

Let’s look at a familiar Biblical story to help make this point clearer. In Matthew 25:14-28, we find The Parable of the Talents.

 

In the story a rich man goes on a journey and he calls three of his servants to give them stewardship responsibility of his resources while he is away.  

 

He entrusts to one servant five talents of money, another two talents, and the other one talent.  He gave to each servant, talents according to their ability.

 

The servant with five talents went out immediately and put his five talents to work and gained five more. The servant with two talents gained two more talents. Since these servants were able to double their original resources, it would suggest that they had knowledge of financial matters and a plan.

But, the servant with one talent went out and dug a hole in the ground and put his master’s money in it. The actions of this servant would suggest that he did not have the proper knowledge and understanding of financial matters or a plan.

 

The rich man returns home and calls the servants to get a report of what they had done with his money. The servant with five talents gave him a report that he now had 10 talents. The servant with two talents gave a report that he now had four talents.

But, the servant with one talent reported that he had only the original one talent the rich man gave him.  

 

The rich man commended the servant he gave five talents and the servant he gave two talents for their faithful stewardship. He gave them a portion of the gains they had received and additional stewardship responsibilities.

 

But, he reprimanded the servant with one talent, calling him lazy, because he knew what he expected of him, but he failed to carry it out, due to fear.   

 

The point I am trying to make is rich people invest time and energy in gaining knowledge and a better understanding of financial matters, to develop a plan to invest their money wisely, gaining more money. Because of the lack of knowledge and planning, poor people fail to invest their money wisely due to fear; therefore; they seldom gain additional resources.

 

Where they seek advice is different.  Poor people tend to seek advice from and listen to advice given by their “broke” friends and family members. Therefore, they are not able to gain the proper understanding of financial matters. The knowledge that poor people receives from these sources is seldom sound and accurate, that is the reason these “advisors” are broke themselves.

 

Rich people seek the advice of other successful people and hire experts in financial matters; therefore; the path to the financial success they desire becomes clearer.  

  

Developing an abundance mindset starts with gaining knowledge. Decide today, to become a “lifelong student” of learning, read books and seek the knowledge and guidance of other successful people.

 

Knowledge “opens” your mind to new possibilities. Oftentimes, poor people do not see themselves being successful or do not feel they “deserve” to have success in their life.

 

This thought process MUST change if you want to have an abundance mindset!!

 

I would like to recommend a couple books to assist you in the development of an abundance mindset: “The Working Man & Woman’s Guide to Becoming a Millionaire” by Al Herron and “Think a Grow Rich” by Napoleon Hill. (For your convenience I have provided links to purchase these books now in the Recommended Resources Section on this site).

 

If you desire to change your mindset and would like more specific assistance, personalize coaching is available. Please send me an email.

 

 

Please provide me your comments on this topic. If you have additional topics you would like to see us discuss, please send me an email or post a comment.

 

Also, refer this site to other men you know, so we all can journey together!! 

 

For the woman in your life, my wife (Sylvia) has a personal development site focused specifically on the needs and concerns of women. The site is called, www.thedashlady.com. 

 

Also, we have a joint site focused on the needs and concerns of couples (i.e. married, engaged, and seriously dating). This site is focused on helping couples to grow together through personal development. The site is called, www.marriagerhythm.com.  

 

Please visit these sites and leave us a comment about the current posts. 

    

Again, thanks for visiting this site.   

 

Randy

The “DASH” Guy

randyclark@thedashguy.com

www.thedashguy.com

Uncategorized abundance, achievement, dreams, personal development, self-improvement, success

 

I hear someone saying, “Oh yes, it is for REAL, I know I am Broke!!”

 

But, if we examine the question closer, I believe we will see that “poverty” consist of more than my current economic status.

 

In other words, are there some additional factors other than money that separate the rich from the poor?

 

I believe there are some major differences in how poor people and rich people think and live their lives. Below I have listed just a few of these differences.

 

They think different. Poor people live their lives out of a mindset of scarcity. In other words, they say, “I don’t have but a little, so I need to hold on to the little bit I have.” Rich people live their lives out of a mindset of abundance. In other words, they say, “How can I invest what I have to earn more?”  

 

Financial decision making is different. Poor people make financial decisions based on how much something will cost them, if they invest. Rich people make financial decisions based on how much something will cost them, if they don’t invest.  For example: Poor people decide not to go to college, because they say they can’t afford it. Rich people decide to go to college, because they know that statistics indicates that those with a college degree will earn more income during their lifetime than those without a college education.

 

Career decision making is different. Poor people look for ways to work for their money. Rich people look for ways for their money to work for them. Let me give you an example to explain what I mean.

 

When poor people face tough economic times, their solution to financial survival is to “cut back” on their spending and/or get a part-time job to increase their income.     

 

When rich people face tough economic times, their solution to financial survival is to look for ways to improve their financial status by taking advantage of the down economy by investing in opportunities that will allow them to be stronger financially when the economy improves.

 

What they teach their children is different. Poor people teach their children to go to school to get an education (some don’t even teach this step), get a job and stay on that job so they can have an income when they retire.  

 

Rich people teach their children to go to school to get an education, to start a business or continue the family business, so they can have income when they retire and to leave a financial legacy for the next generation.

 

How they spend their money is different.  Poor people spend their current income on a lifestyle that makes them “appear” to be rich (i.e. luxury cars, houses, jewelry, etc.). Rich people spend their current income on a lifestyle that is below their means and invest the rest, so they can buy whatever they want later.

 

I know there are other differences between the poor and the rich, but I think you get the point.

 

If poor people want to break the “cycle” of poverty in their family, they have to start thinking and living their lives differently; otherwise; they will continue to struggle in life for generations to come.

 

In the future I will share some practical suggestions on how to develop an abundance mindset, which can help to eradicate poverty in your family for generations to come.

 

I would like to recommend a couple books to assist you in this transformation of your mind: “Rich Dad Poor Dad” by Robert Kiyosaki and “Why We Want You To Be Rich” by Donald Trump and Robert Kiyosaki. (For your convenience I have provided links to purchase these books now in the Recommended Resources Section on this site).

 

If you desire to change your mindset and would like more specific assistance, personalize coaching is available. Please send me an email.

 

 

Please provide me your comments on this topic. If you have additional topics you would like to see us discuss, please send me an email or post a comment.

 

Also, refer this site to other men you know, so we all can journey together!! 

 

For the woman in your life, my wife (Sylvia) has a personal development site focused specifically on the needs and concerns of women. The site is called, www.thedashlady.com. 

 

Also, we have a joint site focused on the needs and concerns of couples (i.e. married, engaged, and seriously dating). This site is focused on helping couples to grow together through personal development. The site is called, www.marriagerhythm.com.  

 

Please visit these sites and leave us a comment about the current posts. 

    

Again, thanks for visiting this site.   

 

Randy

The “DASH” Guy

randyclark@thedashguy.com

www.thedashguy.com

Uncategorized abundance, achievement, dreams, economic status, personal development, poor, poverty, self-improvement, success

 

I hear you asking, “Why do I need a Plan B?”  The answer is, because you need another option when your initial plan (Plan A) does not work out.

I know that sound very elementary for some of you, but you will be surprised how many people who go through life with one plan or no plan at all.

If any man wants to have true success in his life and achieve his long-term goals, he must have a Plan B.

So what is a Plan B?

A Plan B is a secondary option that you have put together, which can be executed, if something or someone interrupts or interferes with your initial plan. The interruption may come in the form of a change in your management, a change in your health, a change in your financial situation, a change in your employment status, etc. 

Let me shed some light on what I am talking about by using my own experience.

My last job in corporate America was in 2007. I was a Security Manager, with a Fortune 200 Company in the Dallas area. I had been with this company for almost 12 years and had been very successful. I was a mid-level manager, with a 6-figure income and a staff of about 50 people (employees and contractors).

However, my job situation started to change very quickly after the head of my organization retired; he was my manager’s manager. He was two levels above me on the organization chart.  

To make a long story, shorter, a new manager took over with a different agenda. The new manager told my manager that the managers in his organization did not have a security background (which was true) and they needed to find another position. 

A few months later, one of the other managers in my group and my direct manager, retired “un-expectantly”. 

In just a few months, I not only lost friends and colleagues, but the environment drastically changed for me. I knew I had to start executing my Plan B, because I was next on the list.

My wife and I already had a small business that we were working part-time; I now started to give this business more focus, because it now became a big part of my future.

I was able to leave my corporate job with a little more confidence and control, because I knew what I was going to do, I had a Plan B is place.

Recently, a lot of people were “caught” off guard when they received a “pink” slip and lost their job. Many did not have a Plan B in place; therefore; they did not know what they were going to do next. (See What Happens When a Man Lose His Job – Part 1, What Happens When a Man Lose His Job – Part 2 and Man,  Somebody Moved My Cheese for more information on this topic.)

Since you never know when someone else will make a “bone-head” decision that may cost you your job, you need to have a Plan B already in place.  

In the future, I will be sharing more information about how to develop a Plan B and provide some Plan B options.  

If you would like more personalize assistance in developing your Plan B, feel free to contact via email and I will follow up with you.

 

Please provide me your comments on this topic. If you have additional topics you would like to see us discuss, please send me an email or post a comment.

Also, refer this site to other men you know, so we all can journey together!! 

For the woman in your life, my wife (Sylvia) has a personal development site focused specifically on the needs and concerns of women. The site is called, www.thedashlady.com. 

Also, we have a joint site focused on the needs and concerns of couples (i.e. married, engaged, and seriously dating). This site is focused on helping couples to grow together through personal development. The site is called, www.marriagerhythm.com.  

Please visit these sites and leave us a comment about the current posts. 

Again, thanks for visiting this site.   

 

Randy

The “DASH” Guy

randyclark@thedashguy.com

www.thedashguy.com

Uncategorized achievement, dreams, self-improvement, success

Contrary to popular belief, a college athlete can truly be a student and an athlete.  Unfortunately, student-athletes like Myron Rolle, a star football player at Florida State University (FSU) don’t seem to get the same level of “press” as those athletes who break the law or become ineligible due low grades.

 

I found Rolle’s story like a “breathe” of fresh air. As I read his story, it became very apparent to me that someone in his life had created a great vision for him. In this case it was his mother (Beverly) and father (Whitney). They were able to help him to see that he can be anything he wanted to be and the only limits in his life is those he place on himself. As a matter of fact, the Rolle family philosophy is a combination of respect and drive.

 

Rolle is not only an outstanding football player, but he plans to become a neurosurgeon; a dream that many think is impossible.

 

In some people minds, being an athlete is a “full-time” job, so they make excuses for their poor performance in the classroom. However; Rolle is proving you can do both, and do them both well. He graduated from FSU in 2 ½ years as a pre-med major.

 

What I believe makes this young man so unique, he has chosen to take a leave from football and possibly a NFL career (and the associated riches) to become a neurosurgeon. He plans to attend Oxford University as a Rhodes Scholar.

 

You are probably asking, “Why is that important?” 

 

It is important, because too many young men have sold their “souls” to the “athletic gods” of our day and they are willing to sacrifice life and limbs to achieve their athlete goals.

 

I believe Rolle is a good role model for younger athletes for two reasons: 1.) He is a student first 2.) He is an athlete second.

 

Rolle seems to understand what so many do not, the chances of him becoming a neurosurgeon is much greater than him being a star in the NFL. Also, he realized that his career as a neurosurgeon would probably be much longer than a career in the NFL.  Therefore; this young man has his priority straight. He sees and understands the “BIG” picture of life.

 

Mr. Rolle, I salute you!!  Keep focused on your dreams. Continue to prove them wrong regarding your abilities.

 

Don’t allow those who seek to benefit from “YOUR Back” to persuade you to settle for less than what you have planned for your life.

 

I believe if Whitney and Beverly Rolle have anything to do with it, they will not let that happen.

 

Keep dreaming and achieving my brother the future looks bright for you!!

 

Please provide me your comments on this topic. If you have additional topics you would like to see us discuss, please send me an email or post a comment.

 

Also, refer this site to other men you know, so we all can journey together!! 

 

 

For the woman in your life, my wife (Sylvia) has a personal development site focused specifically on the needs and concerns of women. The site is called, www.thedashlady.com. 

 

Also, we have a joint site focused on the needs and concerns of couples (i.e. married, engaged, and seriously dating). This site is focused on helping couples to grow together through personal development. The site is called, www.marriagerhythm.com.  

 

Please visit these sites and leave us a comment about the current posts. 

    

Again, thanks for visiting this site.   

  

Randy

The “DASH” Guy

randyclark@thedashguy.com

www.thedashguy.com

 

 

Uncategorized achievement, dreams, fatherhood, fathers, men issues, men needs, parenting, success

 

Hello, I am Randy Clark, The “DASH” Guy. Welcome to my personal development and empowerment blog.  This site is dedicated to helping men to deal with the wounds of life, understand their life’s purpose, embrace authentic manhood and challenge them to leave a legacy that will positively impact generations to come.  

 

“DASH” is an acronym which represents the four key ingredients for a healthy life: Dreams, Achievement, Success, and Happiness!! 

 

On this site you will receive information to help you grow into the successful happy person you desire to be!!  You will be inspired to define your happiness and achieve it!! 

 

If you like (or dislike) what you read on this site, please feel free to share your comments.  Also, if you would like for me to discuss other topics, please share your ideas as well. Remember this site is intended to help us ALL to become better men!!

 

If you want to learn more about me and my mission in life, visit the “About Page” on this site.

 

If the woman in your life would like to receive similar information dedicated to meeting the needs and concerns of women, my wife Sylvia, has a site called, www.thedashlady.com.  

 

Also, we have a shared site dedicated to meeting the needs of couples, called www.marriagerhythm.com.  This site helps couples (i.e. married, engaged, or seriously dating) to stay connected and grow together through personal development.

 

Thanks for visiting and return often for more success and inspirational information!!

 

 

Randy

The “DASH” Guy

randyclark@thedashguy.com

www.thedashguy.com

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Uncategorized achievement, dreams, fatherhood, fathers, men issues, men needs, parenting, personal development, success